My Latest on iVillage…I was in a starter marriage.

I don’t talk a lot about my first wedding. I say wedding because there really was no marriage…just a good party then a lot of ugliness for five years. I wrote about it for Just Be Enough here. iVillage asked me to speak about it so I took a deep breath, put on my big girl pantaloons and gave it a shot. Be gentle. This one was rough…it’s hard to be honest without dragging all the dirty laundry out.


Whoohoo! It’s bittersweet, leaving this space. This space is where I came into my own. But for a while I’ve felt like this doesn’t fit. Like a favorite old sweater, it’s well loved and worn but just not quite right for me now. So tomorrow the brilliant @Japster will move me from here to my new internet home…Belle Reve. I am both excited and sad about it. I’ll still be Minky, I can’t change who I am and I don’t want too but a new internet home now and hopefully a new in real life home soon! Belle Reve. Beautiful Dream. It’s a good place to be…a good place to grow. Hope to see you there!

**So exciting news, my very first Op-Ed is up on iVillage! I DO think women can have it all…do you?

Oh Mother’s day….

Sigh. Today I went to my very first pre-school Mother’s Day Tea. I feel like I had a motherhood right of passage and it was adorable. Sometimes being a mother is absurdly beautiful. My little date and I had so much fun together, my sweet first born was really in need of some individual attention.
Much needed.


because this guy:

is rocking one bad ass ear infection with a side of 103 hotness. It’s decidedly not awesome. Thankfully he has his blankie from MommaKiss she made it for him and I am pretty sure she knitted it from magical unicorns or possibly kittens. It is just that soft.

And for reals, this right here? Is my favorite iVoices video I have ever, ever done. Because really, I have turned into my mother. At least a little bit. Have you?


Things I never thought I’d say.

And apparently I am not the only one who has said them, and ahem done them.
Motherhood is weird y’all.

I need to tell you all about Listen To Your Mother. How we filled the house, how we brought that house down, how kick ass it was to be back on stage…but I just need to process a bit. And maybe sleep. Hopefully, but Huck has an ear infection because of course.

This one time at iVillage Band Camp

I don’t know about your high school, but at mine? The band kids were the WILDEST. And they were totally under the radar so they could like party like no ones business and never get a rep.


Meanwhile I had one crazy bad junior high experience and was branded a slut for ages.

But I don’t need to go on Jerry Springer to get over it, I mean it was a hundred billion years ago. But that epithet has stayed with me throughout my life. I have wavered back and forth between Daddy issue inappropriate attention seeking and utter prissiness. Finally I have settled into happily married lady. Doing the challenge on iVillage was indeed out of my comfort zone and indeed there were several assignments that we just flat out skipped.

I mean really, if I can’t even stare in to my husband’s baby blues without laughing (watch here) what are the chances of us needed a safety word for jiminy’s sake?

I’ll tell ya…NONE.

And that’s okay. We are not those people. If you are, hey, that’s okay too! But as for me and my house just…no.

The challenge is over now but I think we will be keeping the focus on our couple relationship going. This was good for us, really good. Even if I did get the giggles. A LOT.

One thing is for certain, Zach and I need our own show.


You can watch the videos right here! Stephanie Dulli on iVillage

p.s. week three is my favorite.



in which you see my un-finished headboard and perhaps TMI.

{Rome is so romantic}

Oh yeah. What is it about talking about s-e-x that gives me the 8th grade boy giggles? I don’t talk about it at all usually. A very early bad experience and an undeserved and long standing reputation has made me pretty unwilling to share. And really…I am not the gal who puts it all out there on the internet. I read and admire several women who are much more honest and open than I am. I  certainly don’t judge them…but when it comes to my life I am not a big sharer.

Except…except iVillage asked if the handsome husband and I would participate in the Better Sex Better Relationship challenge, and let’s be honest…since the kiddos, postpartum anxiety and y’know economic hardships and living at The American Dream ye olde romantic life has suffered a bit. It’s not that I don’t think he’s hot. It’s not that he doesn’t think I am hot (which boggles my mind because all I see it wobbly tummy, dark circles under the eyes etc where all he sees is the good stuff) so I said to him “wanna do this?” and he said “ummm YES!”

Happy Birthday, Merry Christmas, and every other holiday my man.

So, we started the challenge. And then we had to make a video. No, not THAT kind of video. One where we *giggle* talk about our relationship. If you’re looking for down and dirty details, you’ll be dissapointed. But if you want to see how we interact and make each other laugh, then this is the video for you!

I’m trying to convince him we should co-vlog on the regular.

(one of these days I will finish the upholstery tacks along the headboard. It looks so unfinished. Also, paint those horrible green walls. Ugh.)

Watch and giggle VIDEO

I am so chatty today!

First off, thank you all so much for your sweet comments and emails regarding Huckleberry. He is doing really well! We are even working on transitioning him into the crib in The Boss’ room…even though he is still waking every hour. It’s not going well. Any and all happy advice will be graciously and thankfully accepted!
Today I am kicking it over at iVillage chatting about the weight loss challenge. I am down duh duh duh duh (that was a trumpet fanfare btw) 5 pounds! Yay me!~

I’m also mouthing off about Gay Rights on iVillage. Man, I love me some iVillage today!

Golden Globes Fashion Recap

Last night I co-hosted the Golden Globes live chat on iVillage. It was so much fun…so much fun that it made up for a rather, shall we say, blah show?

Was I the only one who was wondering when they were going to release the Gervais? I mean, why have him on and then essentially neuter him? Maybe next year, we can only hope.

Never mind that, because I got to chat fashion, beauty, and all things Hollywood with the best, the iVillage team. In my wildest dream they say Stephanie, Steph…can we call you Steph? We loved that. Come talk Hollywood, fashion and gossip on the regular with us. I think they should say that, don’t you? You can check out their Best and Worst Dressed here, but first let’s dish. Just you and me. Between friends. And real friends don’t hold back right?

First up. Angelina. She’s on everyone’s best dressed list but I am going to go the other way and say nope. I’m pretty sure that splash of crimson is an actual blood spatter from the ritual sacrifice of bunnies, or a Jennifer Anniston voodoo doll or something.

I want to like her, I try to like her, but I can’t quite…she’s so cold. There is zero question that the woman is exquisite. I want to feed her a burger (and I am a vegetarian) and get her to loosen up! I’d like to see what she is like with her kids, I bet there is a lovely side to her we don’t really see.

Claire Danes, again everyone loved it. I think it’s a little Star Trek Couture. The back was pretty cool. Maybe I just haven’t forgiven her for the whole Billy Crudup thing…I give it a B. p.s. if you aren’t watching Homeland you should, it’s the shizz.


Reese Witherspoon in Zac Posen. DAYUM!

I like to pretend that Reese is my friend and she lets me raid her closet regularly…oh! that I had somewhere to wear this. And that I could fit into it.

Charlize genetically engineered Theron

You have to be ten feet tall and weigh fifteen pounds to carry off a side embellishment like this, and she does. This? This is what couture Dior is all about. This right here. Take note Gwynnie, this is how you rock a pink gown. Per.Fect.Tion.

Natalie Portman. Not ten feet tall, but definitely fifteen pounds. Her baby was born shortly after Huck, so way to make me feel bad about myself Natalie! This color of this strapless Lanvin is lovely on her. Bonus! she has handy place to rest her drink as she works the room. I give it an eh…


Remember last year when I had to swallow all my pride and give Lea Michelle one of the best dressed. This year I’d like to thank her for this dress. Blanche wants it back for the Golden Girls Senior Pageant in Miami Beach.

But not even Juliana Marguilles (who is two for two in WTF dresses) looking like she wants to teach me disco pottery was the worst dressed.

Not even Sarah Michelle Gellar (and this one hurts people because I love me some SMG) who let her 2 year old pick out this disastrous tie dye gown is worst dressed. Sarah, this is why we are the parents; to guide our children into making good decision. So this is not only a fashion fail but a mom fail. (also Buffy for life!)

Worst Dresses is (for me anyway) Piper Perabo. Because what on God’s little green earth was this girl smoking when she took down the old sheer curtains and made this random see through gown complete with HOT PANTS.

Piper Perabo is a beautiful woman. Something is happening here, close up her eyelids look like they’ve been lifted, her lips plumped and everything generally tightened, and it’s not good tightened because she had nothing to tighten. Poor Piper.

Frieda Pinto is painfully beautiful. This skin, hair, necklace, color of the gown…divine. The fabric is looking a bit heavy in pics but it was light as air and flowed around her.

Runner up for best dressed is Viola Davis. This color, her hair, the cut of this dress is perfect for her body. It just shows everything that is gorgeous about this woman. And there is a lot of gorgeous going on with Viola.

Simple. Elegant. A+!

The winner of my almost but not quite award is Julie Bowen. This was exquisite. Her hair, everything was perfect….except the color. If only it had been any.other.color. Black, white, pink…but nudes were everywhere last night and it is so hard to pull off.

Jessica Alba. I’ll have what she’s having. “Jessica Alba glow’ actually trended on twitter.

The highlight of the whole evening for me was when Octavia Spencer won for The Help. I thought her portrayal of Minnie was very different from how she was described in the book, but I loved her. Loved Minnie. Loved Octavia Spencer. I also learned from her acceptance speech that my so-called waterproof mascara was in fact, not.

My Best Dressed? Charlize. Flat out, no questions. She is just…unreal.

Worst? Obvs. Piper.

I love the trend towards simple, old Hollywood glamor! Lots of red lips, finger waved hair, headbands.

What did you think? Am I wrong? Win me over. Except on Piper cause that ain’t never gonna happen.